I have lost track of how many journals, diaries and planners I have bought over the years.
They always look so lovely in the shop. New and shiny and promising to sort my life out and get me on the fast track to ‘awesome’.
All life planners these days seem to start off with a section at the front to clarify your mission in life, plan out your objectives and identify intermediate goals.
I get the book home, make a cup of coffee, and settle in to work through the initial life mapping section.
And that’s where things start to go wrong.
You see, I don’t think I have a life plan. And if I have a life purpose I haven’t figured it out yet.
These type of books made me feel, well, a bit broken. Like I was failing at life somehow because I didn’t truly understand my ‘why’, my ‘truth’, my ‘path’.
If I couldn’t answer these big questions then there was obviously no point in using the journal. I was doomed, beyond help!
OK, that’s maybe slightly melodramatic, but you get the point.
When I start to ‘worry about my why’ I feel lost and out of sorts. I go through this periodically, and get super stressed out thinking I need ‘one’ goal, thinking I need to find my ‘one’ path. I worry that I should know where I’m going, otherwise how will I get there?
But why should we have just ‘one’ goal, path, destination?
Having multiple interests and passions can lead to you beating a new path, rather than following an existing one.
By being open to different possibilities and ideas you might spot an opening you would have missed if you were stomping blindly along your pre-planned route.
My life plan is not defined, not set in stone.
My roles and goals are fluid.
Right now, while writing this, my goal it is to help people who people realise that it’s OK if you don’t have a life plan.
But tomorrow my goal may be to drink coffee with my husband.
At this time of year there’s a lot of pressure from the life planning folk to review your year and your achievements and to get 2017 all mapped out. They can be very enthusiastic, and get you all hyped up with plans to do more, be more achieve more.
But I’d recommend you take it with a pinch of salt, and don’t stress if their plan for having a plan doesn’t fit your plan.
So, this year and next….. follow the paths that interest you, without worrying where they will lead, and keep your eyes open to possibilities you didn’t even know existed.